Why?

From " A curse Dark as Gold" by Elizabeth C. Bunce

"You are the only family they have left now. Errie would want you to care for them should they be left alone. Promise me you won't forsake them- promise me you'll look after my girls.
Yours in sorrow
James"
  Why do people destiny lies on others.  Charlotte and Rosie are alone in the world, their dad has just passed out. They now, have to take their responsibilities and do what is right for them. Meanwhile they take care of the mill in bad conditions that their dad left. The unexpected visit of their uncle disrupt their daily life. Uncle Wheeler's visit is for a purpose. He wants to sell the mill and give them the life that they deserve. Does his will fulfill their expectations?
   Nowadays, more people are confronting this problem. The factor of destiny takes a major place.  Certainly, their father was ensuring their future. However, in the other hands, he already had a plan for them. Find good husbands for them, and making sure that they have a decent fortune.
  Why do we take decision for people? Why don't they make their own? Parents more often think that they have the right to control their children's life. In the idea of protecting them, usually they produce the opposite effect. Children do need to learn from their mistake. That is why it good, when we parents don't force them to go into a relationship.
  Most of the time, this is why women are miserable in their marriage. By the fact that they have been forced  to get married, that don't butter to know their husband. Which result to an submission. These consequences comes from the fact that human think that they can control the destiny of others.

          

    

Can poverty be the purpose of most decision?

Poverty is the reason why country cannot progress. People who don't have a wealthy life don't usually do what they want. They do things because they have to not because they want. The situation is often complex, they are forced to make a decision in order to save or rescue. Sometimes aren't people go into relationship because of love but instead they do it because need.

That is why the rate of failure of relationships is high!!!

    In the previous blog, we analized the factors that make people go into a relationship. This blog is going to be about the factors that people do consider when they are about to break up with someone.
     It has being prooved that most of the time, people are pressure and abuse in a relationship. They have a fear of breaking up. That is why before going into a relationship they do consider every aspect. Human being is unique in itself. We have different point of view on anything, a think differently we act differently. That is where come from most comfrotation. Without resolve the issue they automaticaly give up when they realize the differences.

  

What factor do people usaully consider before going into an relationship?

     Throughout history and still nowdays, people go into a  relationship for a reason? However they differ.
The society have always based upon class, prejudice, wealth etc. Some people go inot it jut for money but others just for love. Class has always  been an obstacle for love. We, human being live our live upon  a lot of rules. Also we learn how to differenciate people and classify them. Love has been distroy just for that but this is not the case of Elizabeth Holland  and Teddy. She truely loves him, the main issue is that she comes from a wealth family but him not. Her familly specially, her mother opposed to their relationship.She is convicted that she should do what her heart is telling her but at the same time she doesn't want to let down her family. Isn't what everyone should do, follow their heart?
         It is still an important question today? To follow what our heart is saying, trust should be there!!! In my opinion if there isn't trust people can't go further in a relationship even though it is good or bad.
Next week we will analyze the rate of success in a relationship based of the factors.
                     

relationship

     An interpersonal relationship is an association between two or more people that may range from fleeting to enduring. This association may be based on love and liking, regular business interactions, or some other type of social commitment. Interpersonal relationships take place in a great variety of contexts, such as family, friends,marriage, associates, works,clubs,neignorhoods, and places of relationships.  Although humans are fundamentally social creatures, interpersonal relationships are not always healthy. Examples of unhealthy relationships include abusing relationships and codependence.

    These relationships usually involve some level of interdependence. People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts and feelings, and engage in activities together. Because of this interdependence, most things that change or impact one member of the relationship will have some level of impact on the other member.
   
   However, throughout history we've notice that relationships are most of the time based upon social class. It has always been a problem.  In most cases, for human, love doesn't come fisrt. We consider a lot of factor  before going into a relationship. As an example from the 'Luxe' Elizabeth Holland has to choose between family duty and true love. This story takes places in the 1800's where everything count where woman don't have any rights. Since the death of  her fathers, her mothers Ms Holland has been leading the family. They are income dropped considerably, she needs to get married to save her family. Meanwhile she fell in love with a guy who is not part of her social class.
  It is a tough decision. Choosing between saving family and true love. Nowdays, we still have those cases and it is more frequent. People go into relationship not because they love each others but because they are forced or are sharing an interest in a bad way.  So why do we have to consider all those things before going into an relationship????

      Does it have to be based on trust?